Wednesday, March 6, 2013

10 Reason Why I’m a (not so) Good Mom

I have a 6 year old son at home and these are some of the reasons I am a (not so) good mom - though I’m sure there are more ;)

No cable TV.  With access to all the networks websites and Netflix instant view, there is more than enough to choose from.  Instead of the show schedule controlling my day, I get to control the viewing length and time.  The big reason: we fight less when there is no TV!

We don’t get to watch all the shows the other kids do.  Luckily Netflix rates all the shows and movies. We just moved up from PG to Y7, but I do not allow FV (Fantasy Violence).  I also minimize the ones where characters are very sarcastic, bratty, or continually bully.  We have found a lot of great shows like the documentary on Monster Trucks, Mighty Machines, and the All About series (cars, trucks, etc).  If we dig around a little, there are some out of the norm shows and he learns a lot of cool stuff from those.

No music videos: He figured out youtube.  New house rule: we listen to our music we don’t watch it.

I will not allow game systems in the house.  Again, there is more free game websites available today than I could have dreamed of at his age.  His favorite game at a friend’s house is Just Dance.  After a long conversation where he tried to convince me we needed to buy a Wii, I found all the Just Dance songs on youtube.  We dance for free and play with “real” toys the rest of the time.

There is a chore chart on the fridge.  It has 5 chores on it that are age appropriate.  He is required to pick up after himself with out pay, but has the opportunity to earn money if he decides to work.  There is no punishment for not working the chart and we rotate new chores in every 6 months.  Some that he mastered go off the payroll and become part of his routine because as we grow up responsibility and freedom both increase equally.

Dave Ramsey’s spend, save, and give pouches.  When my son gets his commission from working, I require him to budget it in the 3 categories.  He puts 10% or more in give, about half in save, and the rest in spend.  He has saved over $200 last year for his “big boy car” already.

I make him buy his own toys.  There are too many pieces and parts all over my house.  If it is not a holiday and he really “has to have” something, I encourage him to find extra jobs around the house to pile up some cash for the goal.  Many times he does and he really treasures those toys.  Other times he loses interest part of the way to earning it.  If we are lucky, he find a comparable item for less than $1 at the church thrift shop on Saturday morning.  Those are jackpot days!

Thrift store clothing.  We go to Value World or Salvation Army on sale days for clothes.  He gets to pick out anything he will wear in his size.  And that is only when we are in between generous hand-me-down gifts from a friend.

I encourage him to donate his toys.  After a few months, the new thrift store and garage sale finds pile up.  I leave box on the floor of his room to fill with toys that are “too baby” to give to another child.  Sometimes we walk them over to the 2 year old neighbor and there is so much joy in that transaction. 

I make him drink my herbal concoction to cure oncoming cold/flu symptoms.  Rather than co-pays and antibiotics, for $5 I can buy bulk herbs at a health food store that make enough tea to last me all year.  I mix my special brew with apple juice and call it “cider” because it is loaded up with cinnamon and cloves to mask the horrible tasting good stuff I put in there to kill the germs.  It takes care of the barky sounding cough, and all the ear infections we used to have.  When I catch things early, we have very few sick days at home.

Despite all this, he still tells me he loves me every day J

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